Sunday, February 24, 2013

HOW TO STOP LOVING SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T LOVE YOU

 

 
 

Focus on the negative.

love makes you so starry-eyed that you’ll overlook just about anything from tiny annoyances to huge character flaws.  it’s time to start thinking of some bad things to balance out the good ones. Whether this person had a tendency to interrupt people, dress badly, be rude to wait staff, listen to horrible music, show up late all the time, disrespect your belief system, or have clammy hands, anything is fair game. Write it all down. Make the list as long as you can, then dredge up as many memories as you can for each one. Doing this will help kill your idealized vision of the person.
 
 

 Get rid of mementos.

  Been hanging on to a note, a teddy bear, a series of emails and IMs, or a long-since-mummified rose? Make space for a new person in your life by letting these things go. As you go through each item, think of the memory associated with it, then imagine putting that memory in a balloon. As you get rid of the thing, imagine the balloon drifting away never to be seen again. 
 
 

Avoid memory-triggers

If you associate the person with a particular song or album, stop listening. If you always used to hang out in a certain spot, stop going. If you have a lot of mutual friends, make a point of hanging out with other people. If you still see each other regularly, stop if at all possible. (This may be difficult at work or school, but you can start by wearing headphones when they’re around, eating lunch somewhere else, walking along new routes, etc.) Don’t surround yourself with mental and emotional reminders; it’s no substitute for having the real thing and will just delay the healing.
 
 

Find creative ways to stop dwelling on the person.

  While it’s impossible to not think about something, it is possible to divert your thoughts elsewhere whenever you start to go down that rabbit hole. Every time those memories bubble up, distract yourself with another thought, activity, or project. Call a friend.  Watch a hilarious movie. Build something. Work in the garden. Do math. Find anything that will engage you far long enough to get the person off your mind for a while. The more of a habit you make of not thinking about the person, the easier it will become. Stop saying: 1) I cannot live without them; 2) I cannot stop loving them; 3) I love this person more than any other; 4) I cannot love anyone else; 5) There is no one better than this person; 6) They are perfect.
 
 

Think of everything you’ve been missing

  How long have you been in love with this person now? Months? Years? And in that time, how many opportunities for other relationships do you think you have passed up? Remember, the next love of your life is out there right now wondering when they’ll find you. Don’t waste another moment being unavailable. 
 
 

Get back in the game

Put yourself out there, meet new people, flirt, and remind yourself how great it feels to be a catch. Your confidence surely needs the boost – and when you meet someone new dont make them suffer for your past relationships,,,, 
 
 
 

Don’t be ashamed of having loved and lost

. In some cases, it can be impossible to stop loving someone, but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Loving another person is a beautiful, selfless act, even if it doesn’t result in a relationship. With time, the hurt will lessen, you will become interested in someone else, and you’ll create new love. If there’s anything the world needs more of, it’s that. 
 
 

Keep looking for another person

. It's good option to keep looking for another person of your match. Sometime it may take time but you don't know when fortune takes your turn.

 Remember, there is always someone else in your future if you can become free from your past and you  can not be friends with someone you once loved so much, so move on!!

5 comments:

  1. I hav really loved some1 lik dat...buh honestly after dis post...I know am done..fnkz

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  2. Thanks,this really helps. I've being there before, thought I was going to dye and all,swore never to love again but here I am now, happy with myself again. Time does heal all wounds.

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  3. Had an experience of such in the past. This truely represents d therapy. Although it could be hard, but achievable.

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